Over the years, I’ve dabbled in my fair share of BDSM ranging from Femdom to Dom/sub relationships. Recently, I’ve had several female readers ask me for inspiration on how to publicly humiliate their sub. I listened… And so, here are fifteen humiliating public Femdom ideas!
I’ve already covered FLR discipline methods in a female-led relationship and interviewed a veteran Dominatrix for her top rules for submissives. In this article, we’re going to explore the following:
- Discreet methods of Femdom control to publicly humiliate a sub.
- Femdom anal techniques that will see the anal pleasure of your sub dictated by you.
- A remote-controlled Femdom game to play that will ensure your slave is left red faced.
All of the public Femdom ideas in this guide have come from personal experience. At the end of the article, before you set out to try these ideas, I want to give you a quick Femdom 101 to ensure your sub is kept safe and not encroach on the consent of the general public.
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An easy public Femdom game
To start, let’s go with an easy public Femdom game. This can be done remotely or with you watching from a distance. It involves sending your sub into a supermarket to buy humiliating items that leave little to the imagination.
For example, I would instruct my sub not to speak to anybody and visit a local supermarket. Inside, he was made to buy the biggest cucumber he could find as and a large bottle of lube. I would pretend I didn’t know him and be in the checkout behind, getting a sexual thrill from the sheer degradation of it all.
Public Femdom games in a sex store
One of my favourite public femdom ideas was to take my sub into my favourite sex store. Making my man walk five paces behind, I would head to sections selling chastity cages, cock extenders, or butt plugs. I would then discuss which products would work best for him so that anyone listening could hear.
The most humiliating aspect came when the sex shop workers approached to ask if we needed any help. My sub would stay silent as I discussed which extender was best for a tiny cock, which butt plug was the most humiliating for a man, and if they stocked lingerie in male sizes.
As a final humiliation tactic, I would tell my slave how pretty his cock would look in a pink chastity cage and how great some of the butt plugs would look in his ass or. It was one of the most effective public Femdom techniques I’ve ever used. And speaking of butt plugs…
Public Femdom anal games
Sex toys are evolving rapidly these days, and butt plugs are no exception. There are now several remote-controlled sex toys that can be controlled from a distance. I used to adore sliding a butt plug inside a sub and triggering it at my will as we went for a walk or a meal.
Seeing a sub trying to keep himself together as a butt-plug aggressively massages his prostate is a truly erotic sight. You can then mock him afterwards when you’re home and, if he accidentally cum in his pants from the toy, you can punish him with a strap-on fuck. After a few hours with a vibrating butt plug in him, it’ll slide in nicely!
Femdom spitting and pissing domination
Getting slightly more hardcore now. I used these methods when I was feeling particularly horny and wanted to truly dominate my slave. When in public, either on a hot summers day outdoors or in a busy bar, I would treat my slave with a little top up on his drink.
I would wait until he had finished or half-finished his drink before taking it and going to the bathroom. In a busy bar, it’s not unusual to take your drink with you, especially as a woman. Inside, I would piss in it or spit in it according to what my slave got a kick out of most.
Then, back in public, I would hand it back to him and revel in the sight as he drank down my fluids like a disgrace. As always, later on, I would use his behaviour to completely humiliate him in bed.
A Hotwife anklet is a one of the best black Femdom ideas
I have a major kink for the Hotwife anklet. Worn by unfaithful wives to signal their sexual availability and kinks to people other than their husbands, it can make a great black Femdom idea for those with a big black cock cuckold fetish.
Personally, I used to opt for a discreet but clearly visible Hotwife anklet in my Dom sub relationships. If I was with a white slave, I would wear a bracelet that read things like “I love BBC” or “BBC slut”. Anyone who noticed it would know the man with me was likely a cuckold.
In addition, it discreetly advertises what kind of woman you are and can open doors for you and your sub. You might get approached by a hunky black guy keen on fulfilling your kink, what better way to increase your sub’s humiliation than by making him watch?
Sexy Femdom ideas for public humiliation
Carrying on from the Hotwife and cuckold dynamics, one of more sexy Femdom ideas was to take my sub to a crowded bar on a weekend. Inside, I would hold his hand and chat with him. But as soon as a more dominant looking male came close, I would strike up a conversation and begin flirting.
The response is awkward at first, as the guy you’re chatting up might not be sure what to make of you flirting whilst holding another guy’s hand. But rest assured, as soon as an alpha senses how much of a submissive bitch your slave is, he will likely disregard it and flirt back.
Ensure your slave keeps his head down and his mouth shut whilst you flirtatiously indulge with more dominant men. This can be a seriously humiliating but sexy Femdom tactic that can be used to humiliating effect when you’ve left the bar.
Temporary tattoos
Whilst I adore erotic tattoos no matter how extreme, I would not condone permanently marking your body in a Dom/sub relationship. However, temporary tattoos can be a great way to humiliate your slave without commitment.
Whilst on vacation with my sub boyfriend at the time, we both got henna tattoos that were easy to remove within a few weeks. I had “Hotwife” on my upper back and a “Queen of Spades” tattoo on my tit, both of which were visible whenever I was at the pool. My sub had the word “cuckold” on his forearm.
The humiliating looks he used to get was intensely erotic. So much so that I was keen on getting a henna tattoo kit when we got home to keep up our kinky temporary tattoos as a form of public humiliation.
Femdom feet techniques
Feet play a huge role in female domination and they can be utilized to full effect in public humiliation too. For example, you can make your sub get down on one knee and give you a foot massage in public as you relax. It might not sound like much, but it’s a pathetic sight for any male.
You can also do some discreet CBT whilst sat at a bar or restaurant for the more hardcore amongst you. Watching your sub try and keep his composure as you bully him and kick him in the balls below the table is a divine sight indeed!
Soft Femdom ideas
Of course, some of these ideas may be too extreme for those starting. But there are several soft Femdom ideas for you to try. For example, order your sub to walk five paces behind you at all times when in public and order him not to speak unless you give him verbal permission.
One of my favourite Femdom control ideas
Say you’re in a bar, restaurant, or cafe and your sub has the audacity to think he can think for himself. As a female Domme, you need to put a stop to that. Introducing one of my favourite Femdom ideas that will discreetly humiliate your man with ease.
Whenever your sub tries to order something, simply laugh and correct him. Order something completely different and politely tell the serving staff to ignore his request. A good sub will duly accept your judgement and be humiliated in front of everyone. However, there is a more extreme way of restricting his speech.
Femdom rules on speaking reinforced with cum
One of my most sadistic Femdom ideas is giving my sub high hopes only to bluntly remind him of the power dynamic in our relationship. Sometimes, I would often reward his good behaviour by taking him out for a few drinks followed by a meal.
As we finished our drinks before heading to the nearby restaurant, I would discreetly take my sub to the toilets of the bar and reward him with a blowjob. As he came in my mouth, I wouldn’t swallow it but would instead pass it back to him in a cum swap. He would be ordered to hold it until we got to the restaurant the first drinks had arrived.
Inside, with a mouth full of his own spunk, my sub would be forced to keep his mouth shut for fear of dribbling cum all over himself. When the waiter came over, he would be forced to sit in silence as I had to order for him. When the drinks arrived, he would mercifully be able to swallow his own load and speak for himself.
Public Femdom sissy ideas
Another of my best Femdom ideas as on the spot sissification of my sub. When we were in a bar, cafe, or restaurant, I would discreetly go into the toilet and remove my panties. Upon my return, I would pass him the panties and order him to go into the bathroom and put them on.
Of course, I would also ensure the panties were fairly soaked with my pussy juices. Knowing he was walking around with my messy panties wrapped around his chastity caged cock was an enormous turn on for both of us. And speaking of chastity cages…
Femdom BDSM ideas with a chastity cage
A Chasity cage on your sub should be a given from the start, but it’s still worth mentioning. Cages come in all shapes, sizes and colours. There are a surprising amount of benefits to male chastity, but humiliation is one of its best.
Few Femdom ideas got me more turned on than making my sub sexually aroused before watching him struggle as his erection was constrained by his pathetic cage that I held the key to. You can also get creative with the keys too, by the way.
Sometimes, I would have my Bull fuck me until he came into a condom. I would then carefully remove the spunk-filled rubber and drop the key inside. I’d then tell my sub that if he wanted to relieve himself whilst tonguing my freshly fucked pussy, he’d have to remove the key from the condom using his tongue. Which of course, he always did.
Give your sub some sweet Femdom ice cubes made from cum
This is a humiliation tactic I’ve both dished out and been on the receiving end of. If you’re merciful enough to let your cub cum, collect it in an ice tray. Whenever you go out, keep it in an ice pack and put them in his drink and make him drink his melting cum.
Of course, for those of you who love the cuckolding scene, then the cum does not need to be from your sub by any means. With their consent, you can collect it from your bull and make your slave consume the cum of a more dominant alpha male as you watch.
Try out Femdom sex positions at a Gloryhole
One of my favourite methods of consenting public Femdom humiliation was at Gloryholes. I would find a Gloryhole near me using various methods, get my sub ready and take him inside. Once inside the Glory hole booth, I would enact some of my filthiest Femdom ideas.
From dressing my sub up as a sissy to having him plugged, I would put him to work at the Gloryhole and see how many cocks he could serve with his ass and mouth. Once we were finished, I would take him home to fuck him with a strap on and verbally abuse him about his slutty behaviour earlier in the day.
A Public Femdom 101 Conclusion
Carrying out public humiliation is a fine line. No matter how intensely turned on you are, you should always abide by the law and respect the general public’s consent. Not everyone is into kink and blatant public femdom techniques like nudity or sex acts is a breach of consent. So here are three rules to abide by when carrying out these Femdom ideas.
- A female Dom needs to ensure that the professional, private, or family life of a sub is not at risk. I suggest going out of town to act out some of these ideas if discretion is needed.
- If engaging in sex, such as putting your sub to work at a Gloryhole, then you should actively protect your sub’s sexual health as much as possible whether it’s condoms, STD tests, or using trusted play partners.
- Always use a safeword and closely observe your sub’s behaviour. They should never feel unsafe, scared, or traumatized. Femdom is supposed to be equally enjoyable for all in its own way.
To reiterate: unless you’re in a sex club, dungeon, or swingers party where such behaviour is encouraged, then always respect the consent of the general public and don’t expose them to inappropriate kink, nudity, or sexual behaviour. You’ll end up in trouble and simultaneously damage the reputation of the kink community. Neither of which is cool.
Whether you’re a female Dom, a sub, or just a member of the kink community and have some naughty ideas for this list, then drop a comment below. Tell me your public humiliation ideas and I’ll consider adding them to the list. For more inspiration, check out these 11 Rules for Submissives From a Veteran Dominatrix.
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